What's In A Word?
Hi.
There is so much power in a few simple words. So much can be accomplished with just telling someone something from the heart. I recently wrote a post about our vacation down to southern California and the annoyances we encounted with a few people. I am totally aware that I offended – pretty much everyone. I definitely feel outcast by the Schrantz clan at the moment. Although it was NOT my intention to end up as some asshole the family hates. I just needed to vent – out loud. Anyhow – this is not what I wanted to write about. I wanted to talk about how one of the people I vented about – probably the most and worst – came to me and said three simple words, “I am sorry.” She came to me and wanted to talk about what happened. At first I was thinking it was going to be a “who’s wrong” match, and I was going to end up yelling at her and slamming her even more – in person (via AIM). It was nothing like that – I yelled a little, but that’s me. She explained herself and then she uttered those three small words that caused my heart rate to slow as I became calm and collected. We are two different people and will probably never agree on some things, but for the most part things went so very wrong due to lack of communication. After talking to her online about my blog and about the wrongs that happened on the trip – had she just opened up to me on the vacation things would not have been as bad as they turned out. I feel a little sad, because she may have her odd things, but for the most part she is a nice girl. I think had we met a different way and had a chance to “get to know” one another first, things would have gone so much smoother. The simple fact that we cannot travel back in time and change events around – we’ll never get the opportunity to know what could have been…
The vacation was painful for all of us – I do not think (now) one person involved didn’t get hurt in one way or another. I cannot be sorry for what I wrote, it was feelings that came from my heart. If the others involved want to talk things out or even shed light on what was going on in their heads at the time – as Susan did – I am here and willing to listen. Thanks, Susan, for being the big person and for coming to me to apologize for your actions. We will never be on vacation together again – but we understand it’s for the best. So, it’s a good thing, and there are no hard feelings between us.
I have the biggest problem with people just not communicating with me. I let it be known that I love to talk, it’s really no secret. Yet, I don’t know what it is about me or who I’m with or what on earth keeps people holding things they need to say inside. I am an extremely understanding human being – bring it! Although, I must warn, if you want to attack me personally then don’t doubt I won’t defend myself. What person wouldn’t stand up for themselves if another were to begin telling them negative things about themselves? I am just a normal human being – boring, I know. I just want answers for why – is that so wrong? Like my brother-in-law, he read the “Some People” blog, and wrote that he hopes I sit on a pin. Well, why did he act the way he did in the first place? It’s not a lot to ask – is it? Communicate with ME! Try me – it’s not going to hurt. Wonderful things happen when two people sit down and talk – understanding starts happening. I cannot force the people I care about to talk to me – I can only ask.
There’s so much power in the things you say to people – the little things. “Have a great day.” Sends a positive message that someone cares that you have a good day. “I am sorry.” sends a message that you didn’t mean to do what you did and want to make things right. I hope you all have an awesome life! I care about you and I really want you to know that. I mean, didn’t the intro to this blog entry feel personal? Like I was talking right to you? It’s words man – they are groovy. “The pen is mightier than the sword.” How true is that?! It’s great and I love words. Come on, let’s talk soon.
Bye, bye for now.
