Some People…
Friday, April 28th, 2006Some people were born to kill the party – and no matter how much kindness you spill over their heads – they are still going to kill the party. We went on vacation and met up with most of Scott’s family while we were down there for the final five days of the trip. Scott’s mother and father, along with Scott’s brother, Tom, and a friend of Tom’s, Susan, all drove down to Anaheim. They stayed with Scott’s grandmother at her one-bedroom apartment. I had chatted with Tom’s friend, Susan, online through AIM and was worried that spending a few days with her might be a nightmare – but, believe it or not I was trying to stay positive and think that she wouldn’t be as bad in person as she was online. Let me give you the precursor to this trip…
We had gone up to Washington State (two years ago) to visit Scott’s parents and had gone over to Tom’s place for a quick hello. Tom pointed out that he had to hide all pictures of his friend Susan. At that time we thought it was a bit odd, but whatever. Fast forward two years, Susan, came online (AIM) and wanted to ask Scott and me not to take her picture while we were together in Anaheim. Okay, fine. Then she went on and on about us not taking her picture for two fucking hours! Oh good god! She asked if I was mad at her – and thinking ahead to how we would be together on this trip, I wanted to keep the peace. Although, I let her know she was being annoying. Then another time she wanted to chat about how my in-laws were going to treat her. I guess she was afraid of them hurting her feelings? I assured her that wouldn’t happen. Although she became annoyed with me because I had to go and sign off. She wanted to set up an appointment on the AIM to ask the rest of her questions. Okay, I went along – being the fucking nice mother that I am – and planned to meet with her online. I was online earlier than I had made the appointment with her for and started to chat with her – well, that annoyed her because she would have to start the in-laws conversation all over again, since I cut her off before and she needed to recall all that she was saying. Then she told me there was no need because she had gotten all the answers she wanted in the FIRST conversation! *deep breath in, and slow release*
So, now you get a small idea why I was worried about meeting this girl and spending the week with her. Plus, she seemed to want to set down a motherlode of rules – forgetting that she was in fact coming along on our family vacation. I had heard that she didn’t like children as well, and I was a little worried she might be obnoxious about Sammy and Keirra (my niece). The day finally came to meet this girl person-to-person. We met up with Scott’s parents, Tom, and Susan in Hollywood at the very yummy Hamburger Hamlet. I had invisioned her being well groomed and petite, very precice and gentile. She wasn’t anything I thought she would look like – but it wasn’t like she was ugly as sin either. She was a plane Jane – nothing special and nothing horrific. She hardly said hello to us and sat at the far end of the table. When her hamburger arrived, she grabbed the glass Heinz Ketchup bottle and started to pour it onto her burger… You know that TV commercial that was on a few years ago, where the man put the Heinz ketchup bottle on top of the building, then ran down to the street just in time to catch it on his hot dog? Well, you know that it needs help coming out, because the ketchup is slow (or stuck). But Susan wanted to sit there and see how long it would take for the ketchup to come out without help. So she sat with the bottle at a 45-degree angle, just waiting for the ketchup to come out. And waiting. And waiting. The rest of us were just about finished with our meals and there she was, still waiting and munching on a few fries. I guess someone told her that we were almost done and didn’t really want to wait around for her to do this experiment. She had a flat-out tantrum! No, she didn’t fall to the floor kicking and screaming, but she stuffed the burger into her mouth (minus the ketchup). She was pissed off that we weren’t willing to wait there for her – ummm, welcome to reality!
Now I was a little worried again, thinking the trip was going to be filled with ketchup incidents… and more or less I wasn’t wrong. The next day we met up with everyone at Disneyland and they wanted to hit all the “fast” rides first. I guess Susan doesn’t like fast rides and Tom wanted to go on them, but not alone. Tom wanted to go with Scott and because Tom seems to be the General; he ordered that we run all over the place so that he could go on the rides with Scott. While I thought that was a bad idea, everyone else seemed to be onboard with that idea – and we ran all over the place trying to get onto all the rides that Susan wouldn’t go on for Tom (big mistake!). If you know Disneyland, you know that the fast rides are scattered around all over the place. So we had to drag our whole group from one end of the park to the other, averaging about one ride per hour. After Tom and Susan went off by themselves we thought we would do a few things we wanted to do (again, big mistake!). We went on a few rides and were paid with a guilt trip later due to Scott’s mother and Grandmother having to wait for us. First they were mad because we ran them all over the place, and then they were even more angry because all the rides we were going on were ones they didn’t want to, like the roller coasters and the Ferris Wheel. We felt like a lot of crap was brought down on our heads due to Tom and Susan and their brilliant idea to run to all the fast rides! Nice… Well, that night we told Scott’s parents and grandmother that we didn’t like the whole running around idea either, and that we wouldn’t be doing that again. They were on board with that idea. THEN the next morning they met up with us (BTW we had two day park hoppers for Disneyland and California Adventure) and the first thing they said was that we were going to run around to a few of the fast rides that Tom didn’t get on the day before. I was like, “NO.” and they tried to fight me but there was no way in hell I was going to back down! I learn from my mistakes (most of the time) and I was not going to take the heat for Tom’s selfishness – again! Of course Tom and Susan were all annoyed at this – I mean who the hell was I, making a stand against the General? I won and I have to say it felt good – and the day was a lot more relaxing – that is after we got back from meeting up with some friends…
Precursor to the friends hook-up: A few months ago we had this trip planned out, and then we found out that our friends (who have a daughter Keirra’s age) were also going to be at Disneyland on one of the same days we were! We thought it would be a blast to meet up and hang out for a while at Disneyland. I made sure everyone knew about it – no surprises.
Back to our second day at Disneyland… Our friends called us when they were in the park and we said we’d meet them. We wanted to head over to California Adventure to catch this kiddie show. We had told the in-laws on day one that we were going to want to head back to California Adventure and they seemed understanding. But once the time arrived, and we told them them we were leaving to spend time with our friends for a bit – they were all over us about not getting to spend time with Sammy and go on rides with him – they forgot to thank Tom for that! Not that Tom is completely at fault – they were the ones who went along with his orders (or plans). We met up with our friends and Scott seemed uneasy, then he started to complain about being there and wanting to go back and then he started getting loud and annoying. I knew that his parents were in his brain, their voices geting louder and louder – FINE! I explained to our friends what was going on and they seemed very understanding about the whole situation.
The rest of day two was okay. I think that not having Tom and Susan around helped a lot! We went on rides and had fun with Sammy. I was almost brought to tears at one point though – when we finally got to Toon Town (inside Disneyland) and found that Toon Town was closing for the fireworks and we only had 40 minutes to explore. This is probably the one main place I knew Sammy would have the most fun – and this was the one place we didn’t get to. Too many other things going on, too much focus on the fast rides and who wasn’t hanging out with whom. I was really upset because my heart was ripping in two. I had wanted to hang out in Toon Town and I took the only chance I had to go there… When we do go back – Toon Town will be one of the first places we take Sammy. I realized about two and a half years ago life was going to be about this little boy. So when I agreed to going to Disneyland, I knew it would be all about Sammy… That was until Tom was invited.
The next day I woke up and my body had decided to strike – and not work with me. It figured I had abused it for two days in a row and now it was payback time. The pain was unbelievable – it was all over, from head to toe. My hip really felt as if it had popped out of joint! Taking a shower and getting ready took me twice as long as normal. Yeah, I am guilty of turning off the alarm clock, but on any normal day we would have still had plenty of time to get ready and out of the room. That day we were scheduled to go over to Scott’s grandmother’s house, and then over to the senior center for a group visit with Sammy and great-grandma’s friends. I thought we were okay, because the evening before Scott’s grandmother had told me the visit was only for ten to fifteen minutes, and not to worry about it. As long as it happened before noon, because that’s when they served lunch. I thought we were safe – with enough time to try to manouver my screaming body out of the hotel room and over to the center. Scott wasn’t helping the problem with his nonstop computer addiction that morning. I’d ask him to help and he’d half-assed hear me then blow the whole thing off. So, when his mother called to see where we were I told her that Scott was causing us to be late – really I was pissed off that he was on the damn computer and not helping me out. I used him as a scapegoat – although he was guilty as charged. I was just as guilty – but it was out of my control (body pain). Then his father got on the phone and was yelling at Scott about how his grandmother was crying and that was causing everyone to become upset… Now I felt bad for blaming it all on him, so I called them back and told them what grandma had told me the night before. We blasted out of the hotel room and I zoomed us over to the old folks center within ten minutes! I was definitely speeding – but it’s southern California, no one noticed. We had fifteen minutes with the gals and it was the perfect amount of time. For fifteen minutes Sammy was all into making them laugh, but as soon as the clock struck noon he was done! He got down and ran away, and didn’t want to take any more pictures. So, see, it all worked out in the end. (When someone does something nice for you and then they expect something nice in return – let them know, “Hey, I’m buying these for you – you better be here on time for me! I think it’s not nice to do that – but if you’re going to, let us know… and we’ll buy it for ourselves in the first place.)
We went to the beach that day and had a lovely time there. We went to dinner at the Old Spaghetti Factory and I thought I had a really nice conversation with Susan. I was almost passing out from a nasty migraine I had, but with the help of pain killers and aspirin I was able to hold it together long enough for dinner. I started to think that all my worries and fears were not so real once I got to know her…
The next day – Friday – we brought lunch over to Scott’s grandmother’s apartment. We had just finished eating when Tom came into the kitchen and started to close the hall door. I asked him what he was doing that for and he said, “To keep Sammy out of the bedroom. Susan has things in there she doesn’t want Sammy getting into.” I assured him that wasn’t going to happen, simply because Sammy cannot turn the doorknob (and that bedroom door sticks, so he really couldn’t open it even if he tried). Tom shot back, “There’s always a first time and I don’t want this to be it.” He then started to close the hall door again. I told him to stop it, and if he closed the door I wouldn’t be able to see if Sammy did go into that area if the apartment. Tom yelled, “NO!” and slammed the door shut. That was my cue to get out, because I knew Sammy was not welcome anywhere Tom and his GIRLFRIEND Susan were – so we went outside. I was so pissed off because Scott and his father were sitting right next to me and neither one said one word in my defense – thanks guys!
Later that night we went to dinner with two Uncles, one Aunt and a cousin from Scott’s mother’s side of the family. Susan kept dodging out of the way of the camera – hey, not our fault you have issues. Scott loves to take pictures and his family is important to him – he wants to keep these memories. So, we ingored her and when Tom said something I told him, “Too bad, her problem not ours.” And, at the restaurant we even had a repeat of the ketchup incident! Like she had to confirm her earlier findings that ketchup will not come out of the bottle without any help. Good God. And Scott’s poor cousin had to sit next to her…you could see the pain on his face.
Then later we went back to Uncle Jim’s place for some cake, and Susan was having one of her fits – once again I was trying to be nice to her and talk her down from the “poor me” high she was on. I tried to show her through conversation that we all have issues and gave her a few examples… Oh mother of god! I don’t know who fucking told her what but me opening up only fed the fire of things wrong with me. She was like keeping some bizzare mental diary of everything she could put together wrong about ME! I guess Tom or my in-laws had told her things that weren’t adding up to things I was telling her. So, instead of saying, “Hey, you say you hate to be late but… I hear from Tom (or whoever) that you are always late.” She just sat there allowing me to talk to her like a fucking idiot. She was collecting ammo for the later attack…
That was it for the trip – but when I got home and was online Tom asked me what I thought of his friend, Susan. I told him that she seems nice and I had a nice talk with her at dinner. Then Susan came online and was like, “Hello. Tom told me I should chew you out.” I have to say that I was curious and inquired as to WHY???? She went on and on about my parenting style, things that I know for a fact she never saw me do and we did not talk about! How would she know this information if someone didn’t tell her? I asked her who she was to judge me on child raising when she didn’t have any children herself. I guess her mommie helped her to understand that my parenting was somewhat okay. Then she went into what I was talking about that evening at Uncle Jim’s house not comparing correctly with the things she’s heard about me. Needless to say I was yelling at her – and my damn brother-in-law for setting her up for the attack in the first place! Then there’s Tom… I don’t know if he was trying to impress his child-hating girlfriend or what, but the last night we were there Sammy went to give the ass a hug and he just stood there like a fucking pole! Poor little Sammy had to hug his leg – and don’t you know the assmunch didn’t even smile, touch Sammy’s head – NOTHING to show compassion back! Yeah, that right there sliced any respect I had left for him to zero. I don’t think that’ll even affect Tom – he seems to have zero respect for anyone anyway (including his parents).
I am so angry at people – I feel (right now) that there is a full-blown War On Viola. I am the enemy to so many people at this moment – and I do not fucking understand WHY!!! What can I say? Thanks for fucking up my vacation you bastards! I used to have a lot of respect for my brother-in-law for the simple fact that he is my family. He pretty much lost my respect for him. He lied and argued with me – not cool! I can understand if there was probable cause, but there was none and he should have had enough respect for me to take my damn word that Sammy wasn’t going to get into the bedroom. Then he was mean to Sammy – that right there is enough for me to be as mad as I am right now. I can take a lot of shit, but don’t dis my son!
This doesn’t even begin to explain the other crisis in my life right now, what my best friend thinks of me at the moment. I’m pretty sure that if she’s reading this she’ll say it’s all my fault for being selfish… I don’t know. I just know that life has this way of beating down on you all at once – I know I am not alone in the world here! Life is like nice and sweet with a little shit here and there, but nothing one cannot control – but good god, it’s pouring shit right now! I just need to deal with one pile at a time and hope I can dig myself out. It’s like an evil test life is giving out, “If you can make your way out of this pile of shit, you should be good for another five years.” Yeah, well bring it on! I am happy to be alive and I will not be beaten down!
I have to end with a PS – Scott’s parents apologized for the first day at Disneyland and the whole senior center thing. No one else has though… I also assured Susan we would never be on vacation together again! Tom has a long way to go before I give him the time of day… I will never go on vacation with him again either! And just so everyone else understands – I refered to Susan as Tom’s girlfriend – she isn’t, even though I think she should be! The real reason I said that is just because they get all worked up when you call them boyfriend and girlfriend.
PSS – If I made anyone cry with what I said, I just have to say you broke my heart too. My intentions weren’t to go on attack – but to express my frustrations.
I hope.





































